If I never hear “Marriage is hard” again it will still be too soon……not because it’s not true sometimes—but because I think that phrase is often used to normalize struggle, dysfunction, emotional exhaustion and deflect personal responsibility. Honestly? I think we deserve better…no…I know we ARE BETTER.

Relationships Are Hard

All intimate relationships are hard. PERIOD. Don’t believe me?…try raising a teenage daughter. I have raised three teenage girls and let me tell you…it is not for the faint of heart! Love will stretch you, yes. Marriage will ask you to grow. Relationships will ask you to grow. Unhealthy relationships drain you, and cause you to question your worth.

Like me, so many of us have believed the rollercoaster was normal. I still remember when I thought love meant proving yourself, tolerating misalignment, and calling it loyalty. In truth, I had let an outdated love blueprint run the show. I don’t know who needs to hear this today, but love was never meant to be confusing, or anxiety-inducing.

In the past, I questioned everything. For years, I wondered if I was too much or not enough. I spent too much time trying make sense of things that went wrong. For a long time, I thought I just got the short end of the stick in love. But the truth? I didn’t have a love problem—I had a blueprint problem.

Do You Understand Your Love Blueprint?

Every single one of us is operating from a subconscious “love blueprint”—a belief system shaped by our past experiences, childhood dynamics, cultural messages, and heartbreaks. Our love blueprint quietly tells us what to expect in love, what we deserve, and how we’re supposed to show up in relationships.

Here’s the thing: if your blueprint is based on survival, fear, or past wounds, you’ll keep attracting experiences that feel like confirmation of your deepest fears. That’s why I created The Love Blueprint—a digital guide designed to help you uncover, challenge, and rewrite the beliefs that are shaping your romantic life. It’s not fluffy, and it’s not abstract. It’s real, honest, and transformative.

You can go through it at your own pace, journal your way through it, and finally start making sense of why you love the way you do—and how to choose differently.

But for some of us, reading alone isn’t enough. That’s where the Love Breakthrough Discovery Session comes in.

Love Breakthrough Discovery Session

If you are craving real-time clarity, deep insight, and someone to lovingly hold up a mirror so you can see what’s really going on beneath the surface—I’ve got you. This is a 1:1 session where we get to the root of your love patterns, interrupt the cycle, and open the door to something better….together. Think of it as the moment everything starts to shift.

So whether you want to explore on your own with the Love Blueprint, or you’re ready to go deeper with a Love Breakthrough Session, I want you to know this:

• You are not broken.
• You are not behind.
• Love is possible for you—real, healthy, grounded love—is absolutely possible for you.

If you’re feeling called, follow that nudge.

Start with the Love Blueprint here https://hshaygood.me/shop/77b178b6-9079-4b8c-b930-b75771472427

Or book your Love Breakthrough Session here https://hshaygood.me/shop/b6862d1a-92cc-4f22-83ca-3ffed6ec3046

You don’t have to keep repeating the same old story. Let’s start rewriting your love story today-I’m here to help you begin.

If you enjoyed this blog post, I invite you to check out “7 Ways You Are Sabatoging your Self-Esteem” here. https://hshaygood.com/2023/05/26/7-ways-you-are-sabotaging-your-self-esteem/

With all my heart,

Heather