An NFL player does not show up to the Superbowl without years of breaking and building muscle, practicing plays, and developing mental agility.  A surgeon does not show up to a heart surgery without almost a decade of training.

How are you showing up for love?

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

-Rumi

When we are children, our family is supposed to be the classroom and proving ground for how we engage and experience love.  For many of us, we are showing up to love with a head full of misinformation, wounded hearts and massive walls.  This is exactly why entire families will get stuck in toxic patterns of brokenness, betrayal and divorce.  What do we do about that?

Someone has to be the first.

Someone has to be the first to forgive, the first to learn new behavior patterns and the first to love.  In order to do that, we must take a long, hard look at why things are not working and learn what to do about it.  Everyone’s path to understanding is different.  Some of us go to counseling or mentors, some of us go to books and some of us learn everything the hard way.

This is why I wrote The Love Journey.  I wanted to create a space for people to contemplate their own experiences, correct what needs to be corrected, grow and learn to love purposefully and successfully.

“It’s time to stop sitting around and waiting for everyone else to change.  Change has to begin with us.  We have to make a conscious choice to work on ourselves.  We must choose to grow whether or not our parents, spouses, siblings or whoever else chooses to grow with us.  Someone always has to go first to show others that it is possible.  Let that be you.  You may think, ‘Well, that’s not fair.  I didn’t create this mess.’  Life is not always fair, but as the old Latin proverb goes, ‘Fortune favors the bold’.”

This is an excerpt from my book, The Love Journey.

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“Love is a journey, not a destination.”