Humans are not born with instruction manuals…. but, how useful would that be?
“Hello Parents, Congratulations on your new baby girl! Heather loves head scratches and snuggles. Her love language is quality time and touch. She should go outside regularly and spoiler alert!!…If you do not keep her busy, she will literally talk to you until your ears fall off!”
Unfortunately for many of us, we have learned all the wrong ways to love and be loved. We build walls around our hearts for protection and at the same time we enter relationships to fill a void that many of us have.
I had no idea what I was doing when I got married the first time.
I had no idea what I was doing when I got married the first time. Firstly, I didn’t have a clue who I was. How could I pick a partner who is good for me if I didn’t know who I am? Secondly, I was too wounded from my childhood to enter into a healthy marriage. When we are not loving from a place of wholeness, we are more willing to compromise in unhealthy ways for love and we often miss any warning signs that may be present.
I wanted to share all of the things I wish I knew about loving from a place of wholeness that I had to learn the hard way.
My hope for you is that you can heal and find love much faster and much less painfully than I did.
It’s true that there is no substitute for learning by doing in life, but what if we were teachable enough to learn by listening and watching so that we are not repeating all of the same old mistakes?
If you are going to make mistakes, make new ones.
I always tell my children to watch and learn, judge someone’s actions without being judgmental, learn from both of those things and make new mistakes so that they are not stuck in old family patterns.
It would delight my soul to know that you were able to read the love journey, apply what I learned the hard way, heal, grow and enter into meaningful love relationships with God, yourself and others.